-slightlyconfuzzled.

hey priory peers,

i feel as though school is causing me to distance myself from socialization. im getting overworked lately, and i dont seem to find the free time to spend time with them. and the problem now is, when i do get the time, i feel behind, because i have not talked to them in awhile and have been left in terms of topics of conversation. also, i feel like some of my friends have changed, talking about things i feel uncomfortable about. what should i do? 

-slightlyconfuzzled.


Hello -Slightlyconfuzzled, 
Let us start off by saying how much we admire your dedication to your studies. Education is a huge factor is high school, because it will help structure a bright and successful future for you. However, we COMPLETELY understand how you can feel excluded or distant from your friends. Schoolwork, unfortunately, has the power to do that. Too much schoolwork can make you miss out on important social events, or even simple things, like a friend's birthday, or just overall hanging out with your friends. What we would suggest is to confront your friends. You might want to start with one friend and tell them what's been going on and how you feel. They should be able to understand and maybe help you catch on on what you've missed. If you find yourself lost in the conversation when all of your friends are gathered together, you might want to stop them and nicely say, "Hey guys! Is it okay if you guys let me know what you're talking about?". Like we said before, they should be able to understand. However, if they don't tell you anything and keep quiet, you might want to ask them individually what's been going on. Your friends need to be able to respect how much work you've been putting in to school and understand that it's been hard for you to keep up with your friends. 
Now, if your friends are talking about things you don't feel comfortable, you might want to tell them, too. Tell them how you feel awkward talking about certain subjects. They should be able to respect that and talk about something else. Also, if you've noticed they've changed a bit, there's nothing you can really do about it. However, they should keep treating you the same way. If they treat you differently, and you don't like it, call them out on it. Ask them way they've all of a sudden changed, but don't be afraid to ask or talk to them. They are your friends after all, and you should be able to confide in them and talk to them about whatever you want without having them judge you. As we've already said, the best thing would be to talk to them individually first, as most people work better when they're on their own, and go from there. Friends are so important in high school, but you also need to remember not to take on too many subjects you can't handle. Try to balance school with friends. That's always important. We're not telling you take easy classes. Take whatever classes you want, but make sure you'll know how to balance school with your social life, so you won't be stuck in this situation too often. We are grateful that you have confided in us to tell us your problem, and if you ever need a friend, we are here to listen and respond back! It may not be the best advice ever, but we hope it gives you at least an idea on what to do. :) 


Best of luck, 
Priory Peers